So basically I am an 18 year old student post-bac..And this whole entire year I've been fighting only to get myself to get up and study. I always feel drained..tired..And I almost always have dark thoughts.
I've never been that lazy, I've actually been a pretty hardworking person, especially last year when I could spend hours (sometimes even 12) studying non-stop. Now all I do is overthink the fact that I need to study...sleep cuz I am tired and so much more...which at the end leaves me feeling suuuper tired...And even when I sleep for hours..I just can't feel rested. :grimacing: :confused:
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this sounds like a burnout to me... I think @lalal already gave good advice but I have a rather strange question: are you madicating something? And I'm asking about any medication, not just SSRIs or anything mental health related. Personally, I felt extremely fatigued and tired when I was on a certain type of meds and the feeling of fatigue went away as soon as I dropped them
Reply to: a girl
If it's burnout I'd recommend prioritizing your mental and physical health over work and studying... Sports and walks do wonders, especially if you need a bit of time away from your house... Gratitude, meditation, bullet journaling etc. can help you get your head off of some problems... As a psychologist, of course, my advice would be to get professional help instead but not everyone can do that, so sticking to routine tasks like walking daily, getting out of the house, maybe meeting up with friends, or any mental health practice you can do at home can do wonders.
Reply to: poof
Thank you a lot for your advice...I honestly walk almost every day tbh to come back home after I'm done with my day at school..meet my bf...I used to go to a therapist but my mom told me that she won't allow me to go to see her anymore :sweat_smile: ..I noticed that after talking to people through this app I started feeling a lot better..Or even when I just send myself an audio on a group I made for myself only as a diary :sweat_smile: :sweat_smile: .
You are the best ! Again thank you :heart:
Reply to: a girl
Of course, I will always try to be there for people that need help. I am sorry about you not being able to see the therapist. Everyone should have access to one and it should be free, no matter what the situation is... I'm glad that talking to people on this app has been helpful but to take time off the digital devices throughout the day for your health too! Best of luck :relaxed: 🤗
I’ve felt the same way in my last year of high school. My bac was focused on mathematics and science, so it was pretty tough. I was in a tough class too, surrounded by hard workers and clever people. I felt out of place. Despite having been among the first the year before, I felt like an imposter. My severe social anxiety didn’t help, and I think I was able to get through the year thanks to my two besties, one of whom I met that year. The situation at home didn’t help either, with my parents always arguing and fighting and pushing me around and yelling either at me or at each other. I performed very badly. Yes because of my home situation, but also because I felt so out of place and drained to the core. Whenever I opened my lessons and exercises, I keep trying to understand but my brain just can’t process things correctly. I give up at the first exercises because I feel overwhelmed, but by doing so, I end up feeling more pressure and more useless and helpless, even stupid. This became a cycle eventually. I was failing physics and maths, the two most essential subjects in my class. I was always last in my class and tried my best to avoid going to the black board and correcting exercises because I simply didn’t know the answers, because I didn’t want all the classmates’ attention on me, and because I didn’t want to show them that I was stupid. Sometimes, I’d get there because the teachers force me, but it doesn’t go smoothly, unsurprisingly. My teachers were ive, but that didn’t help either. I was a mess back then. I guess what got me back on my feet is hobbies like visual novels, drawing and writing. They were so therapeutic for me and made me feel okay despite all the chaos going on.
I digressed too much, but what I want to say is, when you feel overwhelmed or drained, write a lot about anything, doodle, or read something unrelated to what you’re studying. Block an hour for this hobby, and think of it as a necessary break, not a waste of time.
PS: I succeeded that year! Sure, I had barely able grades in maths and physics, but I was great in the other subjects I was tested on, so that compensated for them.
Moral of the story, don’t push yourself too hard, but don’t give up either. Frustration is the most important part of learning. If you’re feeling frustrated, that means your brain is correctly processing the logic behind the exercises.
Eat well, have lots of fruits.
I can’t emphasize this enough: have sufficient sleep please. Sleep early and wake up early.
And most importantly, don’t compare yourself to other people. That’s what personally made me fail for a long time.
You’re your own person, you have your own habits and own schedule etc. (Doesn’t mean you can sleep late though!)
And allow yourself to spend only an hour of your day for social media.
That’s about what I learned from my poor experience. I hope that helped somehow.
Reply to: lalal
Gosh that's exactly what I am going through (kinda) honestly your story gave me tears..thank you a lot 🫂 :sparkles: :sparkles: